Who you want to be matters.
Who you are right now matters more.
Because your presence and growth is the greatest gift you can give to yourself, your family, and the world.
My Story
Where mothers come home to themselves.
Hi, I’m Tina. For years, I had everything I thought I was supposed to want: a great career, a loving family, a good life. And yet, something felt off. I was grateful, but deeply unfulfilled.
In 2015, I began life coach training to find better balance and meaning. Within one weekend, my perspective shifted completely. I returned to the same job, same home, same responsibilities, but everything looked and felt different.
I realized the problem wasn’t my job; it was that I had been running on autopilot. Like so many women, I was living from subconscious patterns I didn’t even know were there. Beliefs I’d inherited, roles I’d learned to play, and expectations I didn’t remember agreeing to were unwittingly calling the shots of my life.
Once I began living with conscious awareness, I felt more present, more empowered, and more myself than ever before. That realization became the foundation for Selfish Mama—a movement to help mothers prioritize themselves and lead their lives with intention, authenticity, and compassion.
What I Believe
Motherhood is one of the most powerful invitations to personal evolution we’ll ever receive. Science confirms what many mothers feel intuitively: motherhood isn’t just a lifestyle shift, but rather a neurobiological and psychological transformation. Researchers call this stage matrescence—a developmental period as profound as adolescence. The brain literally remodels itself, strengthening the regions responsible for empathy, emotional regulation, and executive function.
In other words, motherhood rewires us for awareness and growth. But evolution requires participation. Motherhood brings to light the beliefs, coping mechanisms, and stories that have been running quietly in the background of our lives. When we bring them into consciousness, we don’t just rewrite our future; we rewrite what our children will inherit
I believe that motherhood doesn’t require us to become invisible. It invites us to become more present, embodied, and seen than ever before.
Self-expression
is your birthright and connects you authentically with others.
Self-awareness
is the foundation for being the mother you want to be.
Self-regard
is essential for your wellbeing—and benefits your children.
Self-growth
in motherhood is the act of reparenting yourself and expanding your capacity beyond your default tendencies.
Self-confidence
comes when you release perfectionism and embrace authenticity.
Self-trust
grows when you reconnect with your intuition and honor your truth.
What I Do
As a credentialed coach through the International Coaching Federation (ICF) and the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), I help women navigate this powerful developmental shift with awareness and compassion.
Energy Leadership
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Positive Intelligence (PQ)
Mindfulness and somatic practices
I guide mothers to move from subconscious reaction to conscious creation to lead themselves, their families, and their lives with intention and purpose.
Why I Do It
While I first pursued coaching to create better work-life balance, what I found was far more profound. Coaching changed how I thought, felt, and related to myself. It helped me see the unconscious stories shaping my choices and gave me the tools to rewrite them. For the first time, I felt like I was living as the real me: whole, aware, and fully present in my life. That’s why I coach, and why I love coaching mothers in particular. Mothers are the quiet architects of the next generation.
When we choose to grow and heal, and lean into our self-leadership potential, we model “adulting” for our children. We demonstrate what it looks like to show up authentically and imperfectly, whole and evolving, joyfully and grounded. I believe motherhood has the power to transform not just individuals, but families, workplaces, and communities. Every conscious mother creates ripple effects of change that extend far beyond her home and lifetime. That’s the heart of Selfish Mama: helping mothers reclaim their sense of self so they can actually enjoy their one wild and precious life and raise children who do too.
